
In a British international school, the choice of festivals can feel misplaced if they don’t belong to your culture. The Christmas festival at Bangkok Patana has existed since the school was first established; the tree, decorations and end of term assembly creating a way to bring us all together before we depart for a term break. A more universal question is why humans make festivals with traditions, stories, trees and rituals at all?
In September this year, a groundbreaking study published in the Journal of Family Psychology (PMC12455116) highlighted that rituals and shared traditions are powerful protective factors. Harvard and Cornell authors examined data which explores social connection in our lives and the chemical changes that occur in our bodies. It’s a complex read with a simple summary: that sustained access and engagement with diverse social interactions contributes to slower ageing and better health.
In other words, rituals of international communities are not just nice—they help humans feel connected, safe and hopeful. Whether it’s decorating a tree, baking cookies, going for festive food or creating a new tradition in the month of December to suit our climate, these collective moments matter. The paper is deep and full of fascinating science which tries to make objective sense of feelings. It belongs to the study of epigenetics; a relatively new field that explores how chemicals inside our body’s cells control our genes. These ‘epigenetic markers’ change in response to our environment and help our body become stronger. Other times, they can be changed to create harm in the body through inflammation or disease.
The smart watches which track sleep, heart rhythms and daily steps to optimise our health can tell us we are in the best of physical shape. However, this groundbreaking study explains how people with strong and deep social relationships are happier overall AND their cells look younger under a microscope. Who knew the fight against ageing is simply being in community and enjoying the moment?
Wouldn’t it be interesting if there was an icon on the Apple or Garmin watch to measure the depth of how connected we feel to each other. Even more interesting if the icon changed in response to things we did throughout the day. Imagine having a ‘ring to close’ or a ‘kindness counter’ to reach daily targets based on how many acts of kindness you complete. Until the technology arrives, just manifest that kindness counter on your wrist-watch and think about what it takes to move the dial or close the loop at the end of each day…..imagine where the world might be with just one more act of kindness from us all. If you are short of ideas:
- Eat Together
Shared meals improve communication and emotional wellbeing. Even one meal a day together makes a difference. - Play and Laugh
Board games, charades, or harmless jokes trigger oxytocin and reduce stress for everyone. - Create Tech-Free Moments
Research shows uninterrupted time strengthens bonds and lowers anxiety. Put phones aside for an hour. - Share Traditions or Make New Ones
Decorating, baking, or singing together creates lasting memories and a sense of belonging—key factors in resilience. - Connect with the person you haven’t got round to meeting up with – they’ll be so glad you made the first move.
Bonus: share the most generous message of acceptance and forgiveness to somebody you think has wronged you.
What the Harvard paper tell us is that without doing exercise, reaching our step count or avoiding tempting food snacks, kindness and presence itself will literally make our cells look younger under a microscope. Just a few moments at the Christmas Concert and our fun last day assembly will fill you with youthful joy for the rest of the year. Thank you to the team and young people that have worked so hard to give us the gift of this year’s performance.
May this holiday season bring you inner peace, joy and hope to your homes and family. Thank you for your contributions to the Bangkok Patana community as a place of care, learning and fun.

















































































































































